If you’re applying to a business school, you might want to give some advice to your Mom and Dad, especially if they have shown a tendency to coddle you.
And if you’re the parent of a son or daughter whose aspiration is to attend a top-flight MBA program, you might want to heed some valuable counsel on what you should or shouldn’t do to help your adult child get an acceptance.
We asked Dan Bauer, founder and CEO of The MBA Exchange, a leading MBA admissions consulting firm, what do’s and don’ts he would give potentially hovering helicopter parents. He swears that his own parents had nothing to do with his acceptance to the Harvard Business School years ago. Here’s what Bauer suggests:
Remind yourself, early and often, that this is not YOUR candidacy or
Remember that the MBA admissions process is very different than
undergraduate admissions in which parents are expected and encouraged to
Express sincere encouragement to the applicant during the stressful
Help the applicant recall meaningful experiences, role models,
accomplishments and lessons learned earlier in life.
Offer introductions to your friends and colleagues who attended the
targeted b-schools as information resources.
Volunteer to proofread the final application for spelling or grammar
errors only, not for content.
Watch for subtle signs that your involvement is adding stress and, if so,
back off immediately.
Encourage the applicant to reapply if rejected. Unlike undergraduate
applications, there are “do-overs.”
Push your son or daughter to apply before he or she is ready, committed
and eager to do so.
Put pressure on the applicant to pursue only elite schools that are out of
Suggest recommenders — however prestigious — whose only connection to
the applicant is “family friend.”
Accompany the applicant to information sessions, campus visits, alumni
events, or class observations.
Ghost write essays or recommendations.
Contact the admissions office — for any reason, at any time.
Pretend to be your son or daughter in email or telephone communications.
(Yes, it happens).
Insert yourself between the applicant and his or her admissions
consultant. Trust the expert.